Today I’m wearing my “THIS IS STRONG: Mudderella” t-shirt to support Futures Without Violence and to remind myself of my own self-worth. There are so many warning signs for an unhealthy relationship that you may not recognize until it’s too late. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore that feeling. A healthy relationship should feel GOOD to be part of. If you feel inadequate, guilty, or like you’re walking on egg shells all of the time, chances are you are not with the right person. If you’ve stopped telling your family and friends about the person you’re with because they’re convinced he’s an asshole to you, chances are you’re not with the right person. If you need help leaving an unhealthy relationship, because it’s often extremely difficult to leave despite what people say, it’s OK to seek professional help.
Samirah sent me this article on some of the characteristics of a manipulator. I highly recommend reading this and similar articles on signs of manipulation and abuse.
And the article talks about guys, but I think it’s important to note that girls can be just as manipulative as men.
“Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior – it is always about what everyone else has “done to them”. One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the ‘hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me’ variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.” –cassiopaea
The article can be found here. And yes, I’ve linked it three times in this post because it’s THAT important.