a change of heart, headscarf

I’ve been inspired to do some research about wearing the hijab, a head covering traditionally worn by Muslim women (the term hijab refers to the entire modest dress, but I’ll be referring to the head scarf), by one of my really great friends, who recently decided to take off her hijab. I had known about her decision because of facebook photos, and as many times as we spoke to each other, the topic of her removing her headscarf never came up. I never asked, and she never mentioned it. Until earlier today.

Yesterday, I noticed that another one of my friends had removed her hijab since last year. Someone asked me about it, and I didn’t know what to say. Usually when girls take off their hijabs, it’s always assumed by everyone that they’ve changed in one way or another. I don’t think many people stop to ask for a reasoning behind it.

Anyway, I thought it was unfair to make judgments before talking to this former hijabis, and so I’ve decided to do some journalism and post my findings on my blog for everyone to see. In the next couple of weeks inshaAllah, I’ll be asking former hijabis, current hijabis, and random people about their opinions about women who wear the hijab. With their permission, of course, I’ll be sharing their thoughts and opinions with all of you, and I’ll also tell the story of my own personal decision to wear the hijab, and my uncertainty with it, and how it has helped shape who I am today.

This is completely random, I know, but it’s a very curious topic and I get questions all the time about why I wear it, and when I started to wear it. Especially today, when people are so focused on this one image of beauty being portrayed in the media, it’s often times hard for hijabis to fit in. This layer of cloth wrapped around a woman’s head isn’t seen by too many others as a favored accessory.

Anyway, I have a lot to say, as do many others, and I’m excited to write it all down and publish it as a blog post in a couple of weeks.


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Northern VA native, currently living in Dallas, TX. I love my husband, my family, and eating my food with lots of dipping sauces. I started Pinkgingerale in 2009 as a way of sharing my thoughts, photos, and life with people around the world. Today I continue with a vision of inspiring people through my life journey, and belonging to a community of story-tellers.

4 thoughts on “a change of heart, headscarf”

  1. I can't wait to read this too! Great idea!
    I've actually noticed that a couple people I know have also taken off thier hijabs, people that I never thought would. people that never seemed to have a problem with it and never mentioned the possiblity of removing it. i'm really curious to know why. -Farah


  2. I'm looking forward to this. I used to wear hijab. I went to an Islamic school from 5th-9th, and while elementary kids weren't forced to wear it, it was part of the uniform from 6th grade on. In about 7th or 8th, I think, I started wearing it everywhere, not just at school. My father asked me to stop on 9/12/2001, because he was afraid I'd be assaulted or beaten up. I haven't put it back on since, except when I go to the masjid, of course. Oddly, my mother makes me put it on when we visit the house of someone who either wears hijab (usually the daughters of the house) or if those people have only ever seen me when I was wearing hijab, which is a point of contention between us because I think that goes against the whole point of it. You don't wear hijab for other people.


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